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d o r k y b a l l a b e b e
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[29 Nov 2009|10:29pm] |
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What should I do for my bday? UmmMmm I'm pretty sure everyone is busy on my bday or near it..therefore maybe have a dinner late january! Gives me more time to just snowboard ;D hehehe
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[01 Nov 2009|04:03am] |
I've ALWAYS been an honest person..and straight forward..if you ask me something I will tell you an answer straight up..I would expect the same...but instead..I get lied to..in my face!!!! I don't know if you just don't want to tell me, or you just not an upfront person. But i feel like I'm losing respect for you as a person because I thought I can trust you and thought you can trust me, and I guess I was wrong?.. Something so little and a lie can show me what kind of person you are. That just saddens me a lot because you can lie about anything and I would never know the true you.
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[18 Oct 2009|02:06am] |
5 Signs Your Friend Is Toxic To Your Relationship  user - by YourTango, on Wed Sep 30, 2009 12:18pm PDT
Society has well-worn, oft-rhyming phrases for when it comes to choosing between friends and boyfriends. But despite all these handy expressions, most of us know that when relations between a close friend and a lover go sour, picking a side is vastly more complicated than three-word idioms. 3 Tips For Introducing Boyfriend To Friends Psychology Today recently posted an interesting article titled, "Could YOU Be a Toxic Friend?" It describes five signs that determine whether you are the one being a bad friend. We decided to flip the perspective back around to give you five signs that a toxic friend may be poisoning your relationship. And because nothing is ever black and white (except for zebras, newspapers, and, well, I digress), we also included some important exceptions: 1. She makes you feel guilty about devoting time to your significant other or even being in a relationship. She implies, whether outright or passive aggressively, that you're being selfish when you can't make the same amount of time for her as you used to. You, in turn, feel stretched thin, trying to accommodate both her and your man. Is "Friends Forever" Realistic? Exception: If you can't remember the last time you had one-on-one time with your friend, she may have a good case against you. 2. She repeatedly and unreasonably blames every relationship problem you have on your man. It's natural for us to side with our friends when discussing these issues; girl talk is great for vindication purposes. But if all her suggested solutions end with "dump him" or if you feel you always have to defend him from her attacks, be wary. Clearly, there is a chip on her shoulder that could eventually affect your perception of him. Exception: If many of your friends are independently saying similar negative things about your man, perhaps you need to put on a different pair of glasses—ones that aren't rose-colored. 3. She forces you to choose between her and the man. The "it's him or me" conversation is a red flag. It's a good idea to address how she's feeling—but to bring it up as an ultimatum shows an unwillingness to listen, let alone compromise. Friend Or Boyfriend? Moving Past The In-Between Exception: This construct doesn't apply to smaller 'it's him or me" decisions such as, "Who are you going to sit next to in the car?" 4. She makes you an outcast for being in a relationship. Among other friends, she frequently frames you as an outsider. She plans a girls' night out and doesn't invite you. When you confront her about it, she says she assumes you would be hanging out with your significant other instead. Exception: Make sure that this isn't just a reactionary move to you being overly gushing about your newfound love. 5. She embarrasses you in front of your man, and not in a funny "remember that time in summer camp" way. Do snide comments about your past relationships slip out of her mouth at inopportune times? Do arguments with your lover follow right after? Exception: Learn the difference between a funny story at your expense and a truly mean-spirited jab at your relationship.
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[10 Oct 2009|06:42pm] |
Breakup Recovery 101: Five Rules You Must Follow!  user Whether or not you were together for two weeks, six months, or four years, breakups hurt. And they can be really hard to get over. If you listen to the wise words of Charlotte on Sex and the City, it takes half the time you were together to get over him. Here are a few more wise words to help make your next breakup a little easier. Don't Talk to Him The most crucial rule in breaking up is to not talk to the person you're breaking up with. Even if you think you can handle it and still get over the person, you can't. Don't kid yourself; feelings will get hurt. Take some time off, get over him, and maybe someday in the future you'll be friends. Until then, lick your wounds and recover any way you'd like; whether that be partying hard, staying in bed for days with pints of ice cream, or spending absurd amounts of money on clothes you don't need. No one will say a thing; we all heal in our own, weird ways. Snap Out of It Remember how things, like stupid songs and movies and that little spot in the park that you two went to on your first date used to be "yours"? Well, they're not anymore. Don't make a connection to platonic objects when there isn't one. Remind yourself that you like that spot in the park because of the good view, not because of anyone connected to it. There's no point losing more than you have to from a breakup, so don't get all sappy on yourself. Reconnect with Your Friends No matter how much you say you're not going to be that girl who gives up her friends for her boyfriend; everyone gives up a little of their time to spend with their guy. Well, now is the time to make it up to them (and, you could use the girl talk). So, go out and have fun; grab your best wing woman, and remember how much fun being single really is. Take Some Time For Yourself Amidst all of this trying not to talk to him, hanging out with friends, partying more and/or eating lots and lots of ice cream-you need to remember to sit back and actually work through your feelings. Understand why things went south, and why you're better off this way. And in no time you'll be back to your old self, and what's-his-name will be a thing of the past. It's All About Rewards And finally, do all of the little things that make you happy every day. Yep, being single means thinking about you, you, you. So, go and take that extra time after work and buy yourself that little ring you've been obsessing over. Or take a long walk and meet a friend for cupcakes because well, you can. Have fun spoiling yourself, because you deserve it after....wait, what? I'm forgetting already.
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[23 Aug 2009|10:45pm] |
So the classes I'm kind of planning on taking next semester is Biology9, Astronomy1(again ..), Math80(stats), maybe English1C(again), and Anatomy25 By then I should be able to transfer to some sort of state for Fall10! IF my GPA goes up! MUST DO GOOD!!! wish me luck ppl!! lol
By the time I get to state..i think i'll be taking all the chem classes but last least I'll be done with english and math lol ahhhhh so stressed out!
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[07 Aug 2009|10:38pm] |
Dating Advice: 9 Mindsets Sabotaging Your Love Life
The seasoned psychologist has formulated 9 dating archetypes that women fall into after too many relationships gone wrong: 1. Ms. Second Place. The accommodating, eager-to-please dater who eventually ends up playing second fiddle to her man's career, hobbies, or even wife. This chronic "settler" has lost sight of her self-worth after too many relationships in which she gives way to his needs every time. As a result, she suffers from low confidence and low expectations. How she might have got here: "Men you've dated may have tried to convince you that you should go along with whatever they wanted, otherwise they wouldn't date you." 2. Ms. Soul Mate. She is the idealist after watching peers getting hitched before her. Ms. Soul Mate dates as if every man could be "the one," and is so determined to settle down, she insists on commitment too soon. After a failed relationship, she is often struck with dread that an ex might have been "the one." How she might have got here: "You grew up fantasizing about the day when you would be able to start your own family. Then you could get the love and affection you may have missed as a child, or you could finally be the most important person in someone's life." 3. Ms. Drama Queen. This woman loves a challenge, a competition, and a dramatic fallout. She dates the wrong types of men because she gets a high out of the hard times. Ms. Drama Queen is one who doesn't mind going after a friend's man just to see if she can do it. Afterwards, she feels embarrassed for having been "that woman," however. How she might have got here: "Some of the young men you dated were quick to argue or get physical, and instead of turning you off, it turned you on." 4. Ms. Bag Lady. An emotional rollercoaster, Ms. Bag Lady hasn't sorted out her own personal issues before dumping it all on the new relationship. Her poor relationships in the past lead her to overreact to problems in the new one. She often feels depressed, unable to trust, and unable to move on. How she might have got here: "The men you've dated have been abusive or neglectful." 5. Ms. Mom. She takes over her man's goals as if they were her own, becoming his life coach, psychologist, and mother all in one. She gives her all trying to improve him, but eventually neglects her own needs. Ms. Mom gets depleted emotionally and sometimes financially after her "project" has flown the coop. How she might have got here: "You were Ms. Mom around your house growing up, being told (or offering) to do things for men in your house (father, brothers, or another needy family member)." 6. Ms. Anaconda. A dater who inadvertently suffocates the men she's involved with. Paranoid that he will leave her, Ms. Anaconda holds on too tight by checking up on a man too much, manipulating him, and keeping him away from his friends. When he leaves, it just confirms her suspicions and dooms the next relationship. How she might have got here: "You trusted the men you dated to spend time apart from you, only to discover later that they were cheating on you." 7. Ms. Independent. After a particularly hurtful breakup, Ms. Independent builds an emotional fortress in order to prevent any more pain. Her now-cynical outlook causes her to miss the good qualities in men she dates. Even though she would like to start over, she can't seem to lower her guard enough to depend on anyone else but herself. How she might have got here: "The men you dated were afraid to be intimate, and their defensive behavior made you feel you should keep your distance." 8. Ms. Rose-Colored Glasses. Ever the optimist, this dater refuses to see a monster even if she's sleeping in bed with it. She ignores red flags, friend's advice, even her own senses when it comes to detecting trouble. As a result, she is susceptible to being taken advantage of and cheated on. How she might have got here: "You dated a man who became very angry and upset when you asked questions, and his reaction taught you to fear asking men for more information." 9. Ms. Perfect. A woman who strives for perfection in every aspect of her life, right down to her man. Her standards are impossibly high and men get turned off by her judgmental attitude and meticulousness. She doesn't know how to relax, even on a date, and comes off seeming cold. How she might have got here: "Your parents had very high standards, and you felt pressure to be successful and a high achiever, otherwise you would be criticized or punished." Do any of the types above resonate with you? Callahan's 244-page guide includes specific advice on how to overcome each "Ms. Type." The book concludes with "The Ms. Typed Makeover Kit," a section designed to help one sketch out a game plan for a happier and healthier dating outlook. A few general tips: 1. Create a support team of close friends who can be there for you during a transitional time. 2. Create a vision for your dream life; it will prevent you from settling. 3. List what's holding you back from that dream life and assume those things are false. 4. Gain closure by venting all your burdens out on paper. You can destroy the papers later.
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[27 Jul 2009|03:29am] |
Time to blog...
Lately I've been having mix feelings ( don't worry its not about the bf lol) about life. I can't really just put it out in words, I feel like I have to just talk it out.. too bad everything change, people change..its not the same anymore where you can just call someone and expect them to know everything..
step by step I guess? ok time to clean up dog pee and poo! arghhh! kevvvinnn bring come back and get your f*cking dog back damn it!
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[22 Jul 2009|02:18am] |
Got the names down already haha
#1 Joshua Connor Chan
#2 Scott Taylor Chan
#3 Elizabeth Samantha Chan
#4 Ashley Emily Chan
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[22 Jul 2009|02:03am] |
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regrets . . . lots of it
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[12 Jul 2009|11:43pm] |
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Why do guys hit girls?? oh I know..because their fucking pussies!
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[26 Jun 2009|08:09pm] |
Don't you ever have that feeling that everything is not the same anymore..?
well..I have that feeling..and as much as I hint it or tell the person straight forward..he doesn't see it.
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[03 Jan 2009|04:55am] |
what a great way to start out the year being sick!!!!!! grrr
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[19 Dec 2008|03:44am] |
I have a final in 4hrs and im stressing right now...
I was reading back on my old AIM logs and one in particular..I think I was so caught up in that whole "you hurt me I hurt you" phrase that I realize at the end, maybe I deserved how everything had happen as it did..Ever had a feeling where someone you cared about cause some sort of pain to you and you sort of want to seek pay back? well I did care a lot about this person...he meant a lot to me even through all the bs we had gone through together..but I was so caught up in my ego and wanted to explore meet new people, I didn't realize he cared a lot for me as well...Like reading what he said to me, he really liked me and it wasn't just an act..If i could take back anything, I wish I wouldn't have dragged and lead him on for so long..and it was a long time..I guess you could say I didn't wanna let go, yet I wanted to meet someone new? and yeah it was unfair..and if I could say Sorry to him..I would..(even though by now, it wouldn't and doesn't mean anything anymore)...And also..If i didn't end things or if we got back together at that time..I think till this day we might actually still be together haha...which is kind of ....scary..lol
I'm glad the story laid out as it is..because if it hasn't, I wouldn't have met all those wonderful people that I have hung out with, and a few jerks I dated, and most of all, Calvin and I wouldn't of been together..so I'm glad it went this way in my life...BUT if I had a wish, I would of wish it to take back any pain I caused him...and yeah I would always care about him rather he knows it or not...rather he cares or not..
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[15 Dec 2008|04:11am] |
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working on my research paper at 4:12AM in the morning...yup..thats how you do it..LOL shitttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt luckly its not due till wednesday but STILL! MUST GET THIS SHIT DONE ASAP
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[13 Dec 2008|05:28pm] |
shadyness . . .
oh wells..that's how some people are..I would never sink into their levels..EVER...And I'm not afraid to step up for myself and for ones I care about..I'm not scared of confrontation! Maybe that's what makes me different from them.
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[06 Dec 2008|02:27pm] |
I just woke up with a terrible dream. At this moment I'm still feeling the pain and sadness of what had happened. I was so sad and depressed, which was weird cause it was JUST a dream and yet I could feel these emotions that were occurring at that moment. And it makes me realize how much I care for him and never want anything to happen to him. Although the dream kept jumping place to place, for instance, I would be at one place and later in a blink of an eye, I was at another place doing something else.
Things I can remember about the dream:
Zombies, Mall, investigator for missing child, some record music store, regular sunset house, board games, friends, calvin, night time, outside of a park, house by the beach, baby, small wedding, small church, cell phone, and death.
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[06 Dec 2008|06:10am] |
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oh look at the time.time to knock the ffffffffffff out lol
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[27 Nov 2008|09:53pm] |
R.I.P
Raymond Gee
=(
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[23 Nov 2008|03:34pm] |
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SCHOOL IS CONFUSING AHHHhhHh damn it aha Ok so I really made up my mind on going to UCI, taking all the classes that was required for me to transfer there but NOW..I'm lost..and thinking I should just go to a state inside..Not SF state though, either LA state, San Diego state or san jose state..i mean the classes are similiar in some ways but I just need to take more classes when it comes to state..maybe i should just tried to get into UC Irvine and if I can't get accepted I'll try state...grrrr.....
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[18 Nov 2008|01:14am] |
AKC Ranking: 10
Family: companion, Southern (pariah)
Area of Origin: Mexico
Date of Origin: 1500s
Original Function: ceremonial
Today's Function: companion
Avg Size of male: Height: 6-9 Weight: <6
Avg Size of Female: Height: 6-9 Weight: <6
Other Name: none
History
The smallest breed of dog, the Chihuahua has a controversial history. One theory holds that it originated in China and was brought to the New World by Spanish traders, where it was then crossed with small native dogs. The other theory contends that it originated entirely in Central and South America, descending from the native Techichi, a small mute dog that was sometimes sacrificed in Toltec religious rituals. A small red dog was believed to guide the soul to the underworld, and every Aztec family kept such a dog, which was sacrificed and buried with any deceased family member. To make matters worse for the Techichi, the Toltecs and their conquerors, the Aztecs, often ate dogs and the Techichi may have sometimes been on the menu. Despite what may have been short lives, Techichis apparently were well-cared for during life by the priests or their families. In fact, the most likely origin of the Chihuahua is a combination of these theories: The native Techichi was probably crossed with tiny hairless Chinese dogs, but again the date when this occurred is controversial. The Chinese dogs may have been brought over when a land bridge spanned the Bering Strait, or they may have been brought later by Spanish traders. When Cortes conquered the Aztecs in the 16th century, the little dogs were abandoned and left to fend for themselves. About 300 years later, in 1850, three tiny dogs were found in Chihuahua, Mexico. A few were brought to the United States, but they aroused only moderate attention. Only when Xavier Cugat ("the rhumba king") appeared in public with a Chihuahua as his constant companion did the breed capture the public's hearts. It experienced a meteoric rise in popularity and has continued as one of America's most popular breeds. Temperament
The saucy Chihuahua has earned its place as a favored toy dog because of its intense devotion to a single person. It is reserved with strangers but good with other household dogs and pets. Some try to be protective, but they are not very effective. Some may be quite bold; others may be timid. It is often temperamental. Some bark. Upkeep
The Chihuahua is a lively dog that nonetheless can get its exercise running from room to room indoors. It enjoys exploring the yard or going for short walks on a leash and especially enjoys accompanying its owner on outings. The Chihuahua is not an outdoor dog; it hates the cold and seeks out warmth. Coat care for the smooth is minimal. Care of the long coat entails brushing two to three times a week. Health
• Major concerns: none
• Minor concerns: pulmonic stenosis, hydrocephalus, patellar luxation, KCS,
hypoglycemia
• Occasionally seen: none
• Suggested tests: cardiac, knee
• Life span: 14 – 18 years
• Note: A soft spot (molera) in the skull (due to incomplete fontanel closure) is a common
breed trait. Form and Function
The Chihuahua is graceful, small and compact; it is slightly longer than it is tall. It has a saucy expression and an alert, terrier-like attitude. It should move out at a swift pace with good reach and drive. Its coat can be smooth, with soft, glossy hair or long, with soft straight or wavy hair and fringed ears. Related Dogs
Brussels Griffon
Chinese Crested Dog
English Toy Spaniel
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